Browsing through profiles on online dating sites, the vast majority are off-putting and have me clicking ‘skip/next’, there’s the occasional nice girl who seems genuine and has things to relate to that I feel inclined to like or message, otherwise it’s like sifting through a rubbish bin of pretty pics and nothing else.
What do I find off-putting? What makes me click ‘next’?
- Not having anything but emojis and ‘message me’
- Lack of things to start a conversation over
- Arrogance
- Boasting
- Excess focus on career and goals; can make you come across as judgemental (not in a way to find common ground, interesting conversation; ‘I’m this level, I want you to be, because I’m so awesome kind of thing, massive turnoff)
- Lack of humility or a kind side
- Being a narcissist
- Giving generic lists
If you area girl and are sick of ‘hey babe’ type messages, what can you do differently?
Stop trying to emulate what’s ‘cool’ and be your fucking self! Most guys who’d be willing to get to know you will simply click ‘next’ if there’s nothing to connect with or if you come across as shallow. You get out what you put in. If you want to rely on looks but have nothing else (we used to call such girls bimbos at school, & call it bimbo-ism). Do something differently. Put the bloody effort in. Answer the prompt questions that many dating sites offer.
In conclusion
The profiles I want to click ‘next’ on outnumber the ones I want to like and people I want to message by a large margin. No amount of pretty pictures would make-up for what I’m describing above. For the UK and USA, it’s like sieving through a rubbish bin. I hate to be so bloody blunt.
neverinsilence 