Are you a single woman wondering where the single men are? I want to make you aware that there is a certain percentage of single guys who have lost motivation & hope. Here’s some of the reasons why.
Reasons guys lose motivation to find a girlfriend
- They’re hearing nothing but bad news; how there’s more single men than single women
- They’re hearing nothing but bad news; how the average girl supposedly has tons of options
- They’ve told they’re not good enough and that no-one will ever find them attractive unless they become this, this, this, this, this, this, this, this, this, this, this (especially for those guys who’ve felt invisible)
- They hear about what a lot of women are looking for in a guy; the checklists, they find it off-putting
- They think they can’t compete with all the Mr. Perfects out there; all the gym buffs, studs, bad boys, alpha males, ‘high value men’ they think they’re competing with; many think ‘I don’t fit that bill, there’s no way anyone would want me if they have the choice of that’
- What’s on offer doesn’t seem all that appealing (the thought that only single mums, people with high body counts or people who’re morbidly obese is not that appealing to most guys)
- What they see online in articles & videos is quite off-putting; the way a lot of ‘modern women’ are; bad attitudes, judgemental, lacking kindness, shallow, materialistic, the entitlement, the ‘I can get any man I want’, the ‘I don’t need a man’
- They hear horror stories from older men about being taken to the cleaners, how the nicest, sweetest girl can turn into a monster
So there you have it. This is the messaging the typical single guy receives from the internet and society. He may search things like ‘what do women find attractive’ & ‘how to get a girlfriend’ looking for reasons to be hopeful, only to be bombarded by the above messages & to have all their hope destroyed. There is definitely a percentage of men who’ve stopped looking, who are not actively trying to meet women, expand their circle, using dating sites & so forth due to feeling discouraged and de-motivated due to the above. Due you think the above affects motivation? Of course it does.